Surveys show that more and more married individuals are commiting adultery, but some say the problem lies in not knowing what is infidelity, and not knowing what to do if it happens and how to deal with it afterward.

Suzette is a mother of 2 and has been married for several years with her husband. She started to feel her husband no longer cared for her and marriage has become a routine day-to-day chore with no love involved.

During a work opportunity, she met Peter and started an affair with him. As the gap between her and her husband widen, she asked for divorce. And Suzette married Peter.

A few years later, Suzette filed for divorce again - this time with Peter - and wanted to get back to her first husband again but the road was irreversible. Though recognizing the mistakes which she has made, she is alone now and struggling to find the next possible relationship to start fresh. 

Suzette's story is one in a million of married men or women who engaged in infidelity and thus gone onto a path of no return.

According to the website InfidelityFacts.com, the percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, whether physical or emotional is 41%

There are even websites created only for married men and women to find dates outside their marriages ( it is called married dating). It is not an "uncommon practice" according these websites.

One married dating website has this introduction: " It's not uncommon for things to get a little boring in the bedroom at some point during a marriage -- even in a loving marriage. Sometimes a couple's sex life just needs a boost to reignite the spark and recapture that feeling of sexual excitement..."

These websites encouraged extramarital affairs being a way to 'satisfy and enrich' one's life.

With technology and the easy access to conversations with anybody around the world through social media, the chance for infidelity is no longer reserved to work environment or traveling or socializing.

If infidelity is such a common occurrence in marriages, how does one cope with infidelity - whether it happened to a spouse or oneself?

Hellen Chen is a bestselling author,  marriage expert and an matchmaker, who has helped more than 100 men and women to find their perfect matches and stay married. Unlike traditional matchmaker, this unorthodox matchmaker deals frequently with men and women who have had their hearts broken and who have huge skepticism about marriage itself.

"Infidelity is a problem. It is never a 'one-time' damage. Even if not discovered, it definitely causes havoc for current and future relationships." said Chen, in an interview from Los Angeles, CA.

Recently, during a vacation in Helsinki, Finland, Chen was asked by a local press Helsinki Times reporter, "How could you help the men and women in Helsinki to have a better relationship? Finland has one of the highest divorce rates in Europe."

Chen's answer is "The problem is not about the country. The problem is worldwide. Men and women are educated in all types of studies but badly equipped to know what is marriage. We hear many theories about human behavior. But with all the information given about how men and women act, in the end, we still do not quite know how to deal with issues like stagnating relationships or infidelity." said Chen.

According to Chen, infidelity in itself is not the root of the problem. The problem lies in not knowing what is infidelity, and not knowing what to do if that happens to oneself or a spouse and how to deal with it afterwards.

According to a UN survey last year, America rank #5 in the world in divorce rate.

Chen, who has helped women or men who have cheated to get back on track with their lives, has been invited on FOX, CBS and ABC TV interviews to give her expert views on relationships in America.

One common question asked was, "Does the high divorce rate in America means that Americans are not taking their marriage vows seriously?"

"Not at all. Most married couples do take their marriage vows seriously." said Chen. "But the problem lies in not preparing oneself for what might happen in a marriage. For example, not understanding what is infidelity - whether it is emotional or physical, is a big issue."

Chen's latest book "the Matchmaker of the Century" has become the number one bestselling relationship book on Barnes and Noble as the book shared real stories of couples who overcame challenges in their relationships with the help of the matchmaker.